Monthly Archives: March 2015

5 question Friday – Spring edition

Happy first day of Spring!  Today’s 5QF will be Spring related. Please feel free to answer the questions for yourself either in the comments below, or in your own blog post, and link back here.

1).  What do you most look forward to for Spring?  I enjoy having the sun stick around longer.  It’s nice getting out of work late and it is still day light.  That means more outdoor time with my little guy.

2). Spring Cleaning:  Love it, hate it, any specific routine or thing you do related to it? HATE it.  I’m not a fan of cleaning and will do it when it needs to be done.  I have no routine or organization about it.  I try to focus on one room at a time.  I did make a mental inventory though of what my baby needs, usually the next size up of clothing, and try to pack away clothes he has outgrown.

3). What are 3 things you need to get rid of if you are Spring cleaning?  stained, ripped and/or “don’t fit” clothes, broken items, expired can goods.

4). Spring Break:  Share a memorable Spring Break experience/vacation/memory.  I was recently telling someone that while I was a sophomore in high school, I had my 4 wisdom teeth removed over spring break.  While everyone else was enjoying their vacation and probably at the beach, I was laying on the couch, in pain and miserable, wondering if I would ever be able to eat again lol.

5). Spring is considered a time of new beginnings.  What is something new that you have started/are starting?  Reviving this blog 😉  Also I’m always on the lookout (on Pinterest) for new recipes to try and new activities to do with my son.  And I’m working on reconnecting with old friends.

Have a look at a photo post I did from a few years ago related to Spring. It has a gallery of pictures of beautiful Spring flowers, and a link to a poem I wrote as well.

Happy Friday and Happy Spring!

Three Things Thursday

I decided to take part in a weekly event hosted by Nerd In The Brain called Three Things Thursday, where each week you post about 3 things that made you laugh/smile/love life.  So here are my 3 for this week:

1).  We received an overpayment for our mortgage insurance, that we weren’t expecting, so that was awesome!

2). My cutie-pie little boy passed his audiology exam and the doctor kept saying how cute he was and suggested I get him into modeling.  (anyone know how to do that for kids???)

3). Hubby bought me some delicious Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup ice cream, because he loves me 🙂

Don’t forget to stop back by here next Thursday for the next installment, as this will be a regular feature on my blog.

Expanding my blogging horizons

Today’s #blogging101 task: pick a blogging event from the Community Event Listings, and participate in the next round.

Why do this?

  • Events introduce you to a ready-made community, where it’s easier to find new fans and new favorite reads.
  • Events and challenges are a great way to get inspired and motivated — others establish and host the event, so all you have to do is participate! No heavy lifting required.

I love the idea behind today’s task.  In 2011, I had previously participated in the daily post challenge, but the pressure to post every single day regarding their prompt, as well as the pressures and strain of everyday life, derailed me on that one. I did complete a blogging A-Z challenge that year, from start to finish! Each day you posted on whatever you wanted related to the letter of the day, starting with A and working your way through the alphabet. You can read my posts by looking through my Mile Markers category on the right and clicking the A-Z Challenge link. Two other short term events I did were the Five Question Friday, and Sepia Scenes, neither of which are around anymore. I liked 5QF because she would post 5 different questions each Friday for you to answer, and usually some were pretty funny. I am trying to bring that back using her old prompts and did a post last week that you can read here. Sepia Scenes was a weekly photograph post, using sepia toned pictures. You can check some of those out in the Mile Markers link for Sepia Scenes as well.

I am interested in seeing what else is out there, meeting new blog buddies, and challenging myself to keep on writing and posting.  There were a lot of events that interested me, but I want to ease myself in.  I’m thinking of doing the Tuesday Tidbits, which is a short post about something that happened during the week, or the Three Things Thursday, listing 3 things that made me smile/laugh during the week.  I think these two are similar to ones I have participated in the past and can be easily adapted to my life and my blog. I have remained subscribed to the daily prompts to have another source of inspiration for my posts, and will occasionally be posting pictures in the weekly photo challenge.   I’m looking forward to the growth from this challenge and expanding my blog’s horizon.

Comments Comments

Today’s assignment was to explore the same prompt from Monday through the eyes of of your fellow bloggers. Read 6 blogs and leave comments on at least 2.As you read, ask yourselves: how did the author approach the prompt? How was the post structured? Was there anything particularly creative or original done that you could take inspiration from? Did they interpret it in a way that would have never occurred to your? Reading and finding inspiration in others’ writing is a foolproof way to preempt writer’s block — and it teaches you new ways to re-imagine prompts.

I posted on the beach, which you can read here if you missed it (and I had edited it to add in pictures) here.

I had limited time this morning to work on this assignment so far. But there were 2 blogs that really stuck out to me on how they used the Places prompt. The first blogger wrote about her favorite place being at the ball field. Her husband coaches, her kids play baseball, she loves the game and experience of being at the game, and you could just feel the joy and her pride in being at that place.

The second blog took a picture some very colorful houses/doors in his neighborhood. It was more about a pop-of-color in this place near him.

There were a few other blogs that I had visited and commented on, most all related to the beach like my post, or they were of something that reminded them of home.

I hope you will read my Places post on the beach (and click the link to my Oceans post to see some pictures), and leave some extra comments today 🙂

On this date….March 17th

I’m going to repost today that I wrote 4 years ago, because it helps me to remember where I came from and how I got here. I have also made some modifications to it, as it pertains to me now.

Today marks a couple of “anniversary” dates for me. It was exactly 9 years ago on this date, that I got into my car in my little ol’ small country town in upstate NY and set out to drive across the country and move to Los Angeles, CA. It was definitely a life-changing experience. Also, exactly 8 years ago on this date, I got on a plane and took my first solo flight to another country. I have been to other countries before, but usually with a group of people. This particular trip was all by myself to go visit my sister in England. And 2 years ago, my husband and I told our families that we were expecting our first child!All this nostalgia got me thinking about how I have changed in the last 9 years. 

1) Just moving to LA was a life changer for me. I had never been to the West Coast, except for my interview for the job I was moving out here for. I had always lived in NY and thought I was an East Coast girl. If I had to move, I thought it would be somewhere like Florida or North Carolina, but never all the way out to California. I sold some of my things, boxed up the rest, and set out across the country to start my life all over, not knowing anyone or anything out here. I was following my heart to come out here for what I thought would be very short-term, to work with abused and neglected teenage girls who were also pregnant or just became mothers. I wanted to make a difference in their lives and help them learn how to become independent and take care of themselves and their babies. But it also taught me how to be self-sufficient and fiercely independent as well.

2) Taking the solo flight to England was also a life changer. Just having confidence in myself to make the trip and having no one to help me deal with customs and all things involved in international travel was an interesting experience. But it allowed me to gain confidence in myself to be able to do things on my own, no matter how big or small. I now am more open to going out to eat by myself, going to movies alone, going to events like hockey games alone, random road trips alone, etc.

3) I have become emotionally stronger and no longer allow people to walk all over me or treat me poorly. Before, I would allow men (or others) to treat me bad, use me, yell at me, etc and would not really stand up for myself, and would find myself settling, just because I wanted to feel like I was loved or was in a relationship. Over time, and through much heartache, I have learned that I matter and I am worthy of the right kind of love, and deserve to be treated with respect. My feelings and desires matter, and since I have learned I can be okay on my own, I no longer feel like I have to settle or depend on anyone else. I now have an amazing husband, who loves me unconditionally, and treats me so well!

4) I have learned who my true friends are. One of the hardest things about moving, is leaving behind some of the ones you love. It is hard to keep in touch, especially as we get older and LIFE gets in the way. Most of my friends both back home and now here, have gotten married and have recently become parents, and now I, too, am married and have a little one. And I think that “out of sight, out of mind” also applies. When you don’t see someone for a long period of time, you tend to forget about them, and often lose touch. The same holds true for people that you can see on a regular basis, such as at work or church, or were even in a small group with. You shared your lives together for a time and then life happens, and they are gone, most of the time without warning or a word as to why. You sit around for awhile wondering what happened and if you will ever get an answer, and eventually you again learn who your real friends are and move on. I am thankful for things like Facebook and Skype, which have allowed me to keep in touch with family and close friends, but I do get sad sometimes when I “see” some of those friends that I used to be close with update their Facebook status, and I am not really part of their life anymore.

5) My expectations are not Your expectations. This was, and still can be, a hard lesson to learn. It’s not that I want control of everything (yes, I am a bit of a control freak, but I really appreciate some structure and a plan and think some things are common sense), but I have learned, especially living with various other people, that we all have different views on life and how to keep a home, and even how to be a friend and interact with others. Every single person in the world has been raised with unique values and morals and expectations set (or even NOT set) by their parent(s). Sometimes you embrace those expectations and carry them out into your own life when you become an adult, or you go the opposite way and rebel against how you were brought up. It has been a humbling experience at times, but it has also helped me learn how to let go a bit of my expectations of others, and has forced me to be more open with communication. I hate confrontation, but I am learning to not be so passive and to appropriately deal with a situation when it arises. This applies in all situations, not just home life, but at work, at church, etc.

I know that God isn’t done working in my heart and growing me into the person He wants me to be. Though I am not always a fan of change (the control freak in me), I know that some change is good, and I could always use some refining. I look forward to seeing how I continue to change and grow, and what experiences await me.

Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches, letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights. ~Pauline R. Kezer

If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.
~Gail Sheehy



Beach, mountain, forrest, or somewhere else entirely?

Growing up in my quaint little small town, we didn’t have much in terms of fun places to visit. We were in upstate NY, about 6 hours from NYC, the nearest big city was about 2 hours away. So any trip was usually exciting in its own way. As I got older, I remember going on vacations to the beach, in South Carolina. It was typically a 13 hour car ride. We would stay at hotels at first, then gradually started renting a house on canal. We would take lots of walks on the beach during the day and at sunset (I was never awake for sunrise), and explore the local restaurants and tourist attractions at night. I would always be taken aback at the vastness of the ocean, each and every time. There it was, sprawled out in front of me, fading into the horizon, the waves sweeping away bits of sand each time. It seemed endless. I would just sit in the sand, staring out into the water, wondering who might be on the other side of it, wherever its edges lay on the other shore. I would look for treasures washed ashore, such as shells, rocks or broken pieces of glass. Once I even found a $20 bill. The smell of the salt water in the air lingers throughout the day, and the squawk of the seagulls overhead, begging for food, can bring you out of the trance you were put in by the lapping of the waves on the shore. I’ve seen the waters still and calm, and raging from a hurricane, yet each time, it still captivates me. Any beach has always been my peaceful spot, filling me with such a calmness. And it also reminds me of our smallness in this world. It’s a good reality check. My husband also loves the beach. We actually decided to get married on the beach in the Bahamas. What better place to say “I do”. Now that we live in southern California, there are plenty of beaches for us to enjoy, and they are only an hour away. What’s your favorite?

here’s a link to a post I did a few years back with several ocean/beach pictures I have taken.