Today’s Daily Topic from the Daily Post: What would it take to get you to move? If someone you trusted offered you $1000 to move to a different city, would that be enough? More? Or would you need other things (the promise of friends or better weather?) What would they need to offer you before you’d instantly say yes? Or if you already want to move, what would it take to get you to stay?
I have moved approximately 22 times in my life, so far. Now, this does include from when I was a baby until now, so it incorporates moves my parents made together, then when they got divorced and I bounced back and forth between living with them, to when I went away to college and never moved back home, to living with different friends or a boyfriend, etc.
Most of the moves were all within NY state until 5 years ago, when I made the decision to move all by myself to California, where I had been offered a job. At that time, I had just gone through a horrible breakup/broken engagement, was very unhappy with my job, and just overall tired of living in that small, dead end city. I felt like I was losing myself and just “stuck” and was ready to make some big changes with my life, including my address. So I started looking all over the USA for jobs and when I was offered the job out here in California, I found myself agreeing to take it, even though it was a pay cut, I would lose a lot of my freedom (it was a live in position so I would not have my own place anymore), and I would not know even one person out here. It was a very life changing move in so many ways. You can read more about how it changed me here.
Once I lived out here, my next move occurred 14 months later, when I no longer had that job. I had to find a new job and a new place to live at the same time…..not something I would recommend for anyone…way too much stress all at once. But I was quickly able to find both, and ended up sharing a 2 bedroom apartment with 3 other girls. It was a very small space, and it did not last more than the 1 year lease. One thing I have learned is that I need my own space. While I would prefer to live by myself again, it is almost impossible here in Los Angeles to afford to do so. So when I moved out of that apartment, my only condition was to have my own room; somewhere for me to just be able to have time to myself and not worry about getting up early for work and having the person sharing my room yell at me. Which brings me to my current living situation, sharing a house with 5 other girls. At least I have my own room. I have been here for over 3 years now, with different roommates coming and going. Overall it has been a good experience. I have learned a lot and changed. But our lease is ending next month and all of us are moving on to different things.
These last few weeks I have been very busy looking for a new place (that is part of the reason I have been so scarce with blog posts and commenting). It has been very time consuming and stressful. The new place is not going to be with any of my current roommates. It will just be me and one of my coworkers. It will be a different change of pace, going from so many roommates to just one other. I just got the call yesterday that the apartment we put in a hold/application for, we got approved. I will be moving about 10-12 minutes away from my current location and will now be stuck with all the LA traffic getting to work and going home, which up until now, I have thankfully been able to avoid. But the apartment is the most spacious we have found, and has all of the amenities that we needed (we each get our own garage, there is a pool, central air, etc).
As many times as I have moved, I would think I would be a pro at it by now. But to be very honest, I HATE it. All the packing, the actual moving, and then trying to figure out a place for everything; it’s not my thing. And this time I’m really worried because of all my back issues and pain. I am hoping to be able to hire some day laborers locally, and am working out a deal with one of my male coworkers to at least be with me that day as my translator, since I don’t speak Spanish, and to just watch over me. He has used them before and said it would be a lot cheaper than hiring actual movers.
I apologize in advance for my absence in my postings and commenting on your posts. I will be busy sorting and packing, and the moving towards the end of August. But please know that I am still reading your posts when I can and thinking of you all. And I hope this will be my last move for a long time.
Please feel free to share any helpful moving tips you might have. I know this will be move #23 for me, but I still never really know what I’m doing.